Learning how to say no and not feel guilty about it. I think there's a weird superstition that many of us have where we feel as if we don't deserve and won't a

Learning how to say no and not feel guilty about it. I think there's a weird superstition that many of us have where we feel as if we don't deserve and won't achieve success unless we do everything we possibly can, across every vector of life, all the time. And this causes us to have "yes" as our default response, sometimes to our own detriment. And it often takes a big cold bowl of reality (death in family, getting fired, relationship breakup, physical injury, etc) for us to realize that it's OK to say no sometimes. Will I write a glowing intro email for a passing acquaintance's friend who wants to work at company where I used to work and still have strong relationships? No, sorry. Will I miss a scheduled workout so I can sit in on a conference call that got scheduled at the last minute? No, sorry. Can you borrow my phone charger? No, sorry. Writing these out, I get the visceral feeling that it will come off as selfish. It is selfish, I guess. But learning to say no to things I don't want to do has been a big step for me.