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> and the fact that a lot of men tie their identity to their employment so strongly At least this part is nothing new. Men have always (up until now and I'd ar

> and the fact that a lot of men tie their identity to their employment so strongly At least this part is nothing new. Men have always (up until now and I'd argue that this is still true today) tied their identity, masculinity and even self-worth as a human being to their profession as society expected men contribute the necessary resources to their families in order to support wife & children. If a man couldn't provide the resources anymore he usually lost his value and function to his family and society.

DefaultUserHN 10y ago
Will your kids still love you even though you can't provide for them? Will they look down on you because they're starving and you are not competent enough to feed them? When they look around, they see other dads being able to feed their own kids, and they ask themselves, "Why is it that my dad can not feed them?" Will your kids look down on you because of this? Is the patriarchy forcing men to tie their identity to their ability to provide for their own kids? Or do men understands naturally that if they can't provide for their kids, then they must be pretty incompetent, and then they feels bad about it, naturally, because they love their kids. And then their kids look down on them, because "all the other dads can feed their children, when can't my dad feed me?"