Dale Carnegie Rule #1: Never condemn, criticize or complain. In general, we're all not actually looking for input so much as support. Human nature is such that

Dale Carnegie Rule #1: Never condemn, criticize or complain. In general, we're all not actually looking for input so much as support. Human nature is such that even when we readily acknowledge someone better at something, we quietly indulge and seek out advantages we have in other areas. We engineers like to think we're more rational and accepting of input. Working as a coder and manager for the last 20 years has shown me there's nothing further from the truth.