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> I can ask my brother for money > we have a trash relationship Do you have a trash relationship because you've asked him for money too many times?
by zeroer 10y ago
> I can ask my brother for money
> we have a trash relationship
Do you have a trash relationship because you've asked him for money too many times?
- dang 10y agoWe detached this subthread from https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12145783 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12145783 and marked it off-topic.
- MichailP 10y agoThis comment just irritated the hell out of me. Who are you to pass judgement on people you don't know? Like we all live in a just universe [1], and everything bad that is part of your life is your fault, including bad relationships with people. [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Just-world_hypothesis https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Just-world_hypothesis
- sirrocco 10y agoHe asked a valid question and passed no judgment. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder.
- biot 10y agoAre you saying that because you think about murdering people all the time? It's a valid question; I pass no judgment.
- OJFord 10y agoMaybe "that's an insensitive and provocative phrasing" would be a fair criticism though?
- thinkharder 10y agoThat's not a question, it's a textbook example of the complex question fallacy, which is dishonest rhetorical trickery. Also useful if you just want to insult someone but pretend you're asking a question. If a person was just interested in the guys relationship with his brother, they'd ask "how come your relationship with your brother is so trash?", without the loaded accusation at the end. It's the same category as "so, have you stopped beating your wife yet?"
- zeroer 10y agoI didn't pass judgement on anybody, but I understand how the question could come off that way. It's more that I just have a suspicion that the asshole brother probably has a very different story to tell. But, we'll never know.