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"Many people ... are anxious about what it means to succeed." Sometimes kids get loaded down with expectations, even expectations to 'redeem' a family of peopl
by teeja 17y ago
"Many people ... are anxious about what it means to succeed."
Sometimes kids get loaded down with expectations, even expectations to 'redeem' a family of people who see themselves as failures. Or carry on for 'winners'. Who wants to be in that position? That's a heavy load to carry. Some people only 'succeed' after a decade or two of struggling to really understand a problem - then go on to discovery after discovery.
Success can create an expectation of further success. Early 'success' can result from good fortune. That may create a weight that can't be carried. Child actors, for example. Many people do all the right things, but don't promote them ... and get ignored. The world can be very blind.
And there are people who just aren't motivated by what most people call 'success'. Success might mean solving a problem that few understand. Or it might mean overcoming all those expectations and doing what satisfies oneself. Ironically, that might be described as 'self-defeating' by more conventionally-valued people. Schubert and van Gogh had very little 'success' during their lifetimes. Yet they kept doing what they loved ... and damn the torpedoes.