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> (That said, I'd admonish anyone your age that if you don't have children, have them now rather than a series of compensating house-pets for the rest of your l

> (That said, I'd admonish anyone your age that if you don't have children, have them now rather than a series of compensating house-pets for the rest of your life) I should give up my dreams in order to have kids ? Two years ago, I had an idea ( that failed but that's not the point here ), I wanted to finish it so I simply walked into the office and quit. I worked 6 months on my project, I didn't care about someone else, just me and my project. I value your opinion and if you think that you should have kids, do it but for me, right now it would be like a prison.

benjohnson 10y ago
Note: I'm not necessarily wise. Having children don't preclude following personal dreams - for my own situation - children enhanced my ability(and necessity) to discern if any potential dream was plausible, actionable, and worth the extra effort. For example, I've given up trying to become a billionaire - my financial security is fine, so it would be regrettable to trade away going hiking with my family for extra money. And as a practical matter, children are only horribly disruptive when very small - and they're quite fascinating as a source of entertainment in themselves. But... here's the problem... biologically, female humans seem to be designed to have children easily up until about their mid-thirties (apparently longer if the specimen is fit and active.)
- ohgh1ieD 10y ago
  I like your perspective. Because this: > And as a practical matter, children are only horribly disruptive when very small - and they're quite fascinating as a source of entertainment in themselves. Is actually very insightful. > But... here's the problem... biologically, female humans seem to be designed to have children easily up until about their mid-thirties (apparently longer if the specimen is fit and active.) No one told us that we have to choose a female of our own age. That's societies attempt to brainwash us. While it looks quite disgusting when people are 20-30 years apart, 10 years is totally ok.

benjohnson 10y ago

Note: I'm not necessarily wise. Having children don't preclude following personal dreams - for my own situation - children enhanced my ability(and necessity) to discern if any potential dream was plausible, actionable, and worth the extra effort. For example, I've given up trying to become a billionaire - my financial security is fine, so it would be regrettable to trade away going hiking with my family for extra money. And as a practical matter, children are only horribly disruptive when very small - and they're quite fascinating as a source of entertainment in themselves. But... here's the problem... biologically, female humans seem to be designed to have children easily up until about their mid-thirties (apparently longer if the specimen is fit and active.)

ohgh1ieD 10y ago
I like your perspective. Because this: > And as a practical matter, children are only horribly disruptive when very small - and they're quite fascinating as a source of entertainment in themselves. Is actually very insightful. > But... here's the problem... biologically, female humans seem to be designed to have children easily up until about their mid-thirties (apparently longer if the specimen is fit and active.) No one told us that we have to choose a female of our own age. That's societies attempt to brainwash us. While it looks quite disgusting when people are 20-30 years apart, 10 years is totally ok.