I would gather that your "myriad other characteristics" are really just policy disagreements, not "hate". I think you can disagree on policy with someone with

I would gather that your "myriad other characteristics" are really just policy disagreements, not "hate". I think you can disagree on policy with someone without hating them. Of course, that would require you to actually debate ideas, which I don't think you want to do - especially when it's so easy to throw a label around and end discussion.