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That sounds terrible, but these things are quite rare. They should have gone straight to the police and pressed criminal charges. As a woman in the office, you

That sounds terrible, but these things are quite rare. They should have gone straight to the police and pressed criminal charges. As a woman in the office, your main issue is that some male bosses won't take you seriously. On the other hand, if you're a woman, many bosses (female bosses and also some sympathetic male bosses) might give you extra help/special treatment (which is fair enough).

james-watson 10y ago
Precisely. I am completely flabbergasted by the parent comment. How can someone allow a rapist to walk free? What job is worth keeping that interferes with justice being done? Which VC can survive a lawsuit resulting from firing an employee who was raped by her direct supervisor???? These questions must be answered if the parent's story is to be believed. If the story is true, it would be international headline news for weeks.
- smt88 10y ago
  People did not believe her. That's why she was fired. It was a he-said, she-said situation. Plenty of people didn't even believe Cosby's accusers until it was revealed that he himself had admitted to drugging and raping women. Even if people do believe you, you're heaped with shame. Who wants to make an "international headline" out of something so painful and personal?
  - james-watson 10y ago
    It's not "people's" opinion that matters. It's the police and court's. Victims of sexual assault have their identities protected throughout the entire legal process. Did she, or did she not, report these multiple rapes to the police?
smt88 10y ago
I didn't mean to imply that it's common, but sexual harassment is much more common. I was trying to make a point about women facing a whole class of issues that men don't face.
- busterarm 10y ago
  > a whole class of issues that men don't face. Raise your hand if you're a man and you've been sexually harassed at work! raises hand I worked somewhere where I was the only man and was constantly harassed and my work belittled by my bosses and coworkers. I was outperforming my coworkers but put under extra scrutiny and was groped by my colleagues on several occasions. At another job where I was in a minority of males, my coworkers were excessively flirtatious to the detriment of my performance at work. I worked somewhere else where my male boss made me stay several hours late to help him with his work while he would praise me while trying to rub my leg and tell me how good looking I was. Heck, I've worked at other places where because I wasn't macho enough for the rest of my coworkers, I was called a pussy and my sexual orientation was called into question constantly and they thought it was an okay running gag. That's sexual harassment too! I'm sorry but sexual harassment at work isn't a gender-exclusive thing. Not by a long shot. Aside: I'm kind of glad that I got fat and this all stopped happening. I'm somewhat more inclined to think that this is something that happens pretty universally to any reasonably-attractive people. I see these same things playing out with good-looking male coworkers constantly. I'm also totally ashamed of myself for letting these happen because I'm generally a very passive person. My choice in my personality and demeanor allowed other people to hurt me.

james-watson 10y ago

Precisely. I am completely flabbergasted by the parent comment. How can someone allow a rapist to walk free? What job is worth keeping that interferes with justice being done? Which VC can survive a lawsuit resulting from firing an employee who was raped by her direct supervisor???? These questions must be answered if the parent's story is to be believed. If the story is true, it would be international headline news for weeks.

smt88 10y ago
People did not believe her. That's why she was fired. It was a he-said, she-said situation. Plenty of people didn't even believe Cosby's accusers until it was revealed that he himself had admitted to drugging and raping women. Even if people do believe you, you're heaped with shame. Who wants to make an "international headline" out of something so painful and personal?
- james-watson 10y ago
  It's not "people's" opinion that matters. It's the police and court's. Victims of sexual assault have their identities protected throughout the entire legal process. Did she, or did she not, report these multiple rapes to the police?

smt88 10y ago

I didn't mean to imply that it's common, but sexual harassment is much more common. I was trying to make a point about women facing a whole class of issues that men don't face.

busterarm 10y ago
> a whole class of issues that men don't face. Raise your hand if you're a man and you've been sexually harassed at work! raises hand I worked somewhere where I was the only man and was constantly harassed and my work belittled by my bosses and coworkers. I was outperforming my coworkers but put under extra scrutiny and was groped by my colleagues on several occasions. At another job where I was in a minority of males, my coworkers were excessively flirtatious to the detriment of my performance at work. I worked somewhere else where my male boss made me stay several hours late to help him with his work while he would praise me while trying to rub my leg and tell me how good looking I was. Heck, I've worked at other places where because I wasn't macho enough for the rest of my coworkers, I was called a pussy and my sexual orientation was called into question constantly and they thought it was an okay running gag. That's sexual harassment too! I'm sorry but sexual harassment at work isn't a gender-exclusive thing. Not by a long shot. Aside: I'm kind of glad that I got fat and this all stopped happening. I'm somewhat more inclined to think that this is something that happens pretty universally to any reasonably-attractive people. I see these same things playing out with good-looking male coworkers constantly. I'm also totally ashamed of myself for letting these happen because I'm generally a very passive person. My choice in my personality and demeanor allowed other people to hurt me.