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What the hell is wrong with you?
by technomancy 10y ago
What the hell is wrong with you?
- wccrawford 10y agoBullies have always acted this way, and they're proud of it. They only stop bullying someone when they think they won't get away with it any more. Years later, I asked my bully why he stopped picking on me, and I will never, ever forget his exact words. "You got big." It wasn't some realization that he was an asshole, or that I was hurting... Just that I might hurt him back. Their conscience is so warped that it doesn't matter what you say to them, the only way to get them to change is to hurt them back. And that's sad for so many reasons.
- thisguyiknow 10y agoTwo approaches I've taken in life to bullies: appeal to authority and standing up for myself. Appeals to authority were never successful, and usually resulted in increased bullying (I was punished by the authority, and now I will punish you). Standing up for myself meant the bullies moved on to easier targets. Whether it was a verbal or physical defense, it meant that I was not going to allow them to control me. I didn't become a bully when I fought back.
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