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Re 1: It's funny to hear Asian women gripe about white guys liking Asian women, when it's really the other way around. If you look at online dating stats, like

by colmvp 10y ago

Re 1: It's funny to hear Asian women gripe about white guys liking Asian women, when it's really the other way around. If you look at online dating stats, like eHarmony, OkCupid, and CoffeeMeetsBagel, white men generally respond to messages from Asian women with the same sort of approval rate as white women, albeit slightly less so. Whereas for Asian women, they respond to messages from white men at a noticeably higher rate than from Asian men. [1] CoffeeMeetsBagel also showed that for users who select a single desired ethnicity, a larger percentage of Asian women exclusively note that they want to date white men, compared to the behavior of white men [2a][2b] [1] http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/race_affects/Reply-By-Race-Male.png http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/race_affects/Reply-By-Race-Male.p... [2a] https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/LYIF_dnAfV2FunBTom8Ib5b1eb_nmZy6Un48t_wW_KAVS7udtJcc_2dflJiog7sVk1nNjEJVIse9kTLJfpr1P1wYzGN6PZYo7hEPkQ_KEwEaJXHxacBYgbwi7A https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/LYIF_dnAfV2FunBTom8Ib5b1eb... [2b] https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/Nj7r7XKugOdq0RjBfnnB2hEFgx-E4SKavFVw_cmj9Ggcy6KZQxlV5heNfCO7SNOtgzi2hP6QD7cPN-hWKKVk0xPG05mBX4q7-A9pbF2e2y-Vn4zqWZrQZKSrHQ https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/Nj7r7XKugOdq0RjBfnnB2hEFgx...

teratins 10y ago
Not really that funny since the vast majority of Asians marry other Asians (72%)[1] so it would seem that the Asian women that are complaining are not the sames ones that use American dating sites. So those sites have those results mainly as a selection bias. Because if you use Asian dating sites like BeeTalk, Jiayuan, Baihe and the like, the women there almost exclusively want men that are the same ethnicity (i.e. not just Asians in general but Chinese, Koreans, Vietnamese, etc..) I would also say this matches what I see among friends as well. I'm a mixed race (Asian/white) guy that basically passes for white and I'm fluent in Chinese. And what I see is that the majority of my Chinese-speaking friends don't use American/English-language sites to find dates. They basically screen out white guys (or just non-Chinese guys) by using Chinese-language sites. And I see the same behavior with my Korean friends as well. 1. http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/01/fashion/more-asian-americans-marrying-within-their-race.html?_r=0 http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/01/fashion/more-asian-america... (The article also states that 2nd and 3rd generation Asians are increasingly marrying other Asians as well, rather than just those Asians that are the same ethnicity.)

by colmvp 10y ago

teratins 10y ago

Not really that funny since the vast majority of Asians marry other Asians (72%)[1] so it would seem that the Asian women that are complaining are not the sames ones that use American dating sites. So those sites have those results mainly as a selection bias. Because if you use Asian dating sites like BeeTalk, Jiayuan, Baihe and the like, the women there almost exclusively want men that are the same ethnicity (i.e. not just Asians in general but Chinese, Koreans, Vietnamese, etc..) I would also say this matches what I see among friends as well. I'm a mixed race (Asian/white) guy that basically passes for white and I'm fluent in Chinese. And what I see is that the majority of my Chinese-speaking friends don't use American/English-language sites to find dates. They basically screen out white guys (or just non-Chinese guys) by using Chinese-language sites. And I see the same behavior with my Korean friends as well. 1. http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/01/fashion/more-asian-americans-marrying-within-their-race.html?_r=0 http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/01/fashion/more-asian-america... (The article also states that 2nd and 3rd generation Asians are increasingly marrying other Asians as well, rather than just those Asians that are the same ethnicity.)