Either you are too shy, and the usual prescription of go out there and overcome it isn't going to work. I was painfully shy when I was younger, and it took dete

Either you are too shy, and the usual prescription of go out there and overcome it isn't going to work. I was painfully shy when I was younger, and it took determined and sustained effort to overcome it. Even today, after years of this, it often takes a moment of deliberate effort for me to talk to a stranger. At parties, I am often one of the people holding up the wall. It's clear, however, that that will not work for a small number of people, and if you are one of them, then you must consider counselling/therapy. For a really small number, drugs are called for. If you find that a determined effort to be outgoing is not possible/helpful, then I seriously encourage you to seek out the right type of counsellor.