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A couple of my guy friends have told me they swipe "Yes" on every single girl. I suspect that this isn't too uncommon.
by purplerabbit 10y ago
A couple of my guy friends have told me they swipe "Yes" on every single girl. I suspect that this isn't too uncommon.
- JoeAltmaier 10y agoSounds like they need a 'selectivity rating' so you can tell they aren't serious. Like your seller rating on EBay.
- mwfunk 10y agoOh, they are serious. That's just what a lot of people have to do to get anywhere with anyone. The alternative for most guys is being picky and getting nothing.
- Grishnakh 10y agoPersonally, I'd rather be picky and get nothing if the alternative is having to sleep with someone I'm totally not attracted to. Porn is more satisfying, and with porn I don't have to worry about hurting the girl's feelings. That said, however, you do have to be realistic about what kind of woman you can attract. Also, if you get distracted by someone you're really not into, that can keep you from meeting someone who's a better match for you.
- antisthenes 10y ago> the alternative is having to sleep with someone I'm totally not attracted to. I'm not sure how people can sleep with someone they're not attracted to. Isn't being attracted required you know for getting a physical response?
- Unklejoe 10y agoBasically, no. You'd be surprised what the imagination can do.
- khedoros 10y agoIf your prospective partner is not specifically repellent, and there are enough of the appropriate hormones built up in your system, physical response is no problem, if emotions are just right, if there's something arousing about the circumstances you find yourselves in, or (as mentioned) you close your eyes and let your imagination take hold. It's complicated, and there's more than one dimension.
- fizzbatter 10y agoI've always felt people on both sides of the fence are too picky. I met my soon-to-be wife on a dating site, so i'm sure i'm biased, but i've always felt they are the way to go. Not specifically Tinder, but rather a good algorithm that improves your signal to noise ratio. The problem there, as i see it, is always users though. Even if the site has an awesome pitch, you need critical mass to feel you have a shot at it. Perhaps Facebook should buy and integrate something like OkCupid. A data-centric approach to matching, combined with the largest data set (albeit, not tailored for OkCupid..) seems like a very interesting prospect. edit: Not sure what being picky has to do with dating sites... think i wandered, apologies.
- Grishnakh 10y ago>Perhaps Facebook should buy and integrate something like OkCupid. A data-centric approach to matching, combined with the largest data set (albeit, not tailored for OkCupid..) seems like a very interesting prospect. OKCupid has already been bought by the company that owns Tinder and Match.com (unfortunately). This was a year or two ago I think.
- fizzbatter 10y agoI've always wondered what this sort of behavior does to the number of single males/females. Eg, ultimately what really happens? I could list a dozen questions about each genders respective choosey levels and tactics.. they're quite common and well known. But at the end of the day, are they even effective? Does each gender even have the same goals? Are males and females even happy with the result of their (conscious or unconscious) behavior? The two parties in question have such different tactics and tend to play the game so differently. Yet they're dependent on each other (barring additional genders or gender preferences, which only complicate matters in this already confusing discussion haha). It's all quite puzzling. Personally, i view myself as very different in this data sample, so perhaps i'm so puzzled because i'm so different.. for better or worse. Regardless, i don't understand.
- posterboy 10y agoYes, complete with comments and criticism.
- mwfunk 10y agoI've heard this as well. It's the shotgun effect, it's not that different from how many/most guys find dates. Ask 100 girls to get 10 dates to maybe get 1 date that isn't a total disaster. For something like Tinder that a lot of people just use for hookups, it's going to be even more pronounced because guys will be even less picky.
- mikeash 10y agoWhy put effort into making a decision now, when you can filter out everyone who didn't reject you first and then make fewer decisions later?
- milesokeefe 10y agoBecause that constitutes being an irresponsible participant. If everyone did that, it just shifts the filter from swiping to unmatching. It also signals a lack of empathy IMO. No one likes being matched and immediately unmatched.
- mikeash 10y agoWell sure, but I mean hypothetically as a selfish jerk, there's no reason not to do it that way.
- niftich 10y agoIt's the digital equivalent of the stereotyped 'bar/club tactic' of trying to pick up every girl in a bar. Most will decline, but after a week's worth of attempts, their chance of still not having succeeded will approach 0%.
- gallonofmilk 10y agoI guess I'm the outlier then... :/
- heartsucker 10y agoBecause that's a shitty strategy and just doing what you like and talking to people while there works much better. I'm pretty sure I've gotten more dates sitting by myself reading at cafes and quiet bars that rowdy bars and clubs.
- Dzugaru 10y agoDoesn't work when you like doing functional programming or similar activities ;)
- heartsucker 10y agoSo if your favorite activity is functional programming, do you really think you're going to have a lot in common with people in bars and clubs? Or is the stereotypical person in one of those places really who you're looking for?
- lloyd-christmas 10y agoI do exactly this because it's informative. I don't actually follow through with anything, but it's interesting to find out types that find you attractive.
- pkaler 10y agoDo they realize they are being throttled? Just because one end sends a swipe doesn't mean the other end receives it right away or at all. Men who send a lot of swipes get their outgoing swipes throttled. Women who receive a lot of swipes get those swipes throttled, too. Think about if you were the programmer working on Tinder. The first thing I would build is swipe spam detection.
- coralreef 10y agoWhat do you mean by throttled? As I've seen there is a daily limit on swipes (which can be bypassed with an in app purchase).
- milesokeefe 10y agoAs in after a high enough number of consecutive swipes in a time period, i.e. 3 swipes a second for 30 seconds, the swipes get ignored. No one can evaluate people that quickly, so it's okay to assume the client is a bot or a human spamming likes.
- Dr_tldr 10y agoI know someone who works on the Tinder team, and if this is happening, it's news to them. Ie, you have no idea what you're talking about. If both parties have to swipe in order for them to receive spam, why does Tinder care? In your head, do you think server costs are their primary concern?