Or woman up and not grow a pair. It isn't really harsh or not harsh. There are merely realities of being human. (It may, however, require a drastic change in

Or woman up and not grow a pair. It isn't really harsh or not harsh. There are merely realities of being human. (It may, however, require a drastic change in perspective). In reality, your circumstances and actions are immaterial to your mental state. (I think this is obvious from the number of depressed people in the USA). I think instead of asking 'what can I do to be happy', you really have to tell yourself 'I am going to be happy', and then go out and do things. If you do it the first way, you spend your life coming up with millions of unsuccessful 'get happy quick' schemes, that never quite pan out. If you do it the latter way, you start out happy, so you don't really need to do anything. But you do do things, because people who are happy go out and get stuff done.