I struggle with this problem too, so your predicament touches on something with me. It is drastic because in this situation, you have to be drastic. Shyness a

I struggle with this problem too, so your predicament touches on something with me. It is drastic because in this situation, you have to be drastic. Shyness a is kind of hesitation. You are about to do something, but you catch yourself and say 'well what if'. Then you backslide from your motivated position to 'maybe i shouldn't', and so, with one hesitation, you've gone from 'doer' to 'didnter'. So you just have to smother that initial hesitating voice and think drastically about things. If I don't do this, it is one more wasted opportunity in my ever-shortening life. Every time I've taken a risk where i smothered the initial hesitation it has paid big dividends (not in money).