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No I wouldn't. Question one, are you more attached to your self image as someone who has a real problem with shyness or are you more attached to the idea that
by samh 17y ago
No I wouldn't.
Question one, are you more attached to your self image as someone who has a real problem with shyness or are you more attached to the idea that you need to solve this problem for real ?
Are you serious about overcoming it ?
If you are, what you need to do is to take steps, possibly very small steps, every day, to push yourself past your comfort zone and be around other people and overcome your shyness.
There is no knowledge that will help you, you cannot read, think, research or write your way out of it, you can only practice and train your way out of it.
- Every day this week I will smile at a stranger. Then smile at two a day, then ten.
- Every day I will say 'hello' to people as I pass them and smile.
- When I deal with a cashier or serving person I will say "Thanks, you having a good day ?" I will practice small talk.
Action not thought will help you.
- ptn 17y agoWow, the smiling to strangers thing sounds like It'll help, thanks for that. Here's another one I came up with: I live in a 12-store building where 44 families live. I will say hi and bye to everyone that shares the elevator with me instead of looking at my shoes and pretend they are not there. And I will smile while doing so.
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- soyelmango 17y agoSaying Hi and Bye is a great idea to get you started, because it will do two things for you: 1) They might respond well to you, which can boost your confidence. 2) They look at you like you're a weirdo - this might seem bad, but it's really a good thing because you will teach yourself that sometimes, there's nothing wrong with you, and it's the other person that has an attitude problem! Good luck, and please report back to let us all know how you get on :)
- JimmyL 17y ago+1 to the small talk/smiling thing - I did it for a few months when I was in school and definitely noticed a difference in my comfort level when dealing with people.