One note: Four of the things he has grown accustomed to experiencing are feelings. (e.g. Feeling relieved when people don’t verbally address the fact that I’m

One note: Four of the things he has grown accustomed to experiencing are feelings. (e.g. Feeling relieved when people don’t verbally address the fact that I’m Black Feeling out of place when I can’t identify with certain pop culture references or cultural norms (like being able to swim, liking baseball, listening to rock/country or playing golf), because I grew up differently Feeling like I have something to prove because I’m Black Feeling like I was chosen for certain photo/video opportunities at work and during other activities to feign diversity and acceptance) We cannot be responsible for how other people feel. Feeling alienated and out of place is something that's common for all people. Once you have an inner locus of control, things flow more naturally. If you think of your feelings as subject to the whims of the external world, then you are always going to be in a world of hurt, no matter what color you are. You can always find a reason to feel bad about yourself.