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thanks. I left a bunch of details out - he claims I was just a volunteer, there was no contract, etc.... the problem with the lack of payment and injunction r

thanks. I left a bunch of details out - he claims I was just a volunteer, there was no contract, etc.... the problem with the lack of payment and injunction route would be a) he already is dodging a £30k bill for a legal case he lost and b) he'd never pay a measly £1k and so an injunction etc would cost more for me, realistically... he is using the legal system to extort me, IMO for code that isn't worth much - why he wants it, I can't understand b/c the old site had a bad UI. Their new site is totally mobile friendly and looks much better. so this is just being vindictive or he wants the code for re-use yeah, tortuous interference is what I'm worried about. but the site was never popular, maybe 20 new members a month at avg £5...

davismwfl 10y ago
This is one of those times that it is important to let go of the who is right and walk away knowing you did right and don't worry about who is right. You gain nothing but headaches and pain by trying to prove you are right in this scenario, and to your own point the money isn't large and he is already ignoring the courts for other factors. So frankly, give him his code and walk away with a clean conscious. I am not saying I am any better or immune from the same behavior or thoughts, but sometimes it helps to have someone with no dog in the fight to just say seriously, walk away. Which means you can say, hey I did right and regardless of the situation and stupidity, I can sleep well every night. The £1k isn't worth your sanity or health stressing out over the what if's, drop it, give him the code and walk. Does that mean you feed his stupidity and ego? Maybe, and maybe he even feels vindicated, whatever, moron's exist everywhere and in every culture. But in the end, you can sleep and move forward with a clean focus. Do whatever you want, no contract means you can write whatever you want to compete etc, but don't put yourself in a risky position over what is in the end a small amount of money, especially when it could cost you so much more. Good luck!
- dfraser992 10y ago
  thanks for the support, several friends have said the same thing. The solicitor said all this is just posturing and only until papers for a claim are filed with the court does anything begin to matter. The way he attempts to ratchet up the anxiety and/or guilt tripping while providing an explicit "out" - i.e. hand over everything without any further consequences - is very apparent now. A valid claim, written by a solicitor, would calmly lay out facts with supporting evidence, establishing a dialogue like you're supposed to to avoid litigation and begin negotiations -- i.e. not act like a spoiled 2 year old... The money I am owed is irrelevant - it's more a matter of the constant bullying and attempts to extort me. If he files a claim based on what he has said are "the facts", I have the proof needed to show he has knowingly lied to the court. That alone ought to scupper any case. I guess it is the humiliation if I ignore this latest deadline that I am sort of concerned about - will his ego handle it?

davismwfl 10y ago

This is one of those times that it is important to let go of the who is right and walk away knowing you did right and don't worry about who is right. You gain nothing but headaches and pain by trying to prove you are right in this scenario, and to your own point the money isn't large and he is already ignoring the courts for other factors. So frankly, give him his code and walk away with a clean conscious. I am not saying I am any better or immune from the same behavior or thoughts, but sometimes it helps to have someone with no dog in the fight to just say seriously, walk away. Which means you can say, hey I did right and regardless of the situation and stupidity, I can sleep well every night. The £1k isn't worth your sanity or health stressing out over the what if's, drop it, give him the code and walk. Does that mean you feed his stupidity and ego? Maybe, and maybe he even feels vindicated, whatever, moron's exist everywhere and in every culture. But in the end, you can sleep and move forward with a clean focus. Do whatever you want, no contract means you can write whatever you want to compete etc, but don't put yourself in a risky position over what is in the end a small amount of money, especially when it could cost you so much more. Good luck!

dfraser992 10y ago
thanks for the support, several friends have said the same thing. The solicitor said all this is just posturing and only until papers for a claim are filed with the court does anything begin to matter. The way he attempts to ratchet up the anxiety and/or guilt tripping while providing an explicit "out" - i.e. hand over everything without any further consequences - is very apparent now. A valid claim, written by a solicitor, would calmly lay out facts with supporting evidence, establishing a dialogue like you're supposed to to avoid litigation and begin negotiations -- i.e. not act like a spoiled 2 year old... The money I am owed is irrelevant - it's more a matter of the constant bullying and attempts to extort me. If he files a claim based on what he has said are "the facts", I have the proof needed to show he has knowingly lied to the court. That alone ought to scupper any case. I guess it is the humiliation if I ignore this latest deadline that I am sort of concerned about - will his ego handle it?