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I'd love some dressing tips for nerd women. All I ever wear is jeans, polo shirts and knitted pullovers. No glasses though, I prefer contacts. I don't even kno

by blots 17y ago

I'd love some dressing tips for nerd women. All I ever wear is jeans, polo shirts and knitted pullovers. No glasses though, I prefer contacts. I don't even know how to dress otherwise or how to use make-up.

Mz 17y ago
I don't use make-up. I'm allergic to everything. So no tips on that from me. As for clothes: Pick up a copy of David Kibbe's "Metamorphosis". Learn what clothing shapes, patterns (stripes, polka dots, etc) and colors work best for you. Get a good hair cut for your hair type and face shape. If you have any health issues, work on those. Healthy people look better, regardless of what they wear. Once you have some idea of the shapes, colors, etc you need to focus on, try on lots and lots of clothes but only buy those things that are both very comfortable to wear and are also flattering. (With practice, it gets easier to shop once you know what works for you. You can eliminate most clothes in the store without trying them on once you have this knowledge.) If you are physically comfortable in your clothes, it helps you pull off a sense of "style" in the eyes of others. Elegance is not just about the clothes you wear but about how you move and that is enhanced by being physically comfortable. If you have self image issues negatively impacting your clothing choices, the best solution to that is probably having a positive intimate relationship with the right person so you Get Over It. If you want to learn about power dressing, there is only one book that I know of which is based on actual research into what works: "Dress for Success" by John T. Malloy. It's apparently been updated a few times. Searching for it on Amazon brings up "New Women's Dress for Success". I've read a lot of clothing books over the years. A lot of them don't have much value. If you want good results without investing a lot of time and effort into it, those two books are must haves and most of the rest can be ignored.
- blots 17y ago
  Thanks, for some reason it didn't occur to me that there could be books on that. Honestly, I can't stand shopping for clothing, you can waste an entire day and not find anything that's "both very comfortable to wear and [...] also flattering" and making people take you seriously.
  - Mz 17y ago
    Most of the time, I spend very little time shopping for clothes. I have been known to pull something off the rack and buy it without trying it on and have it work out fine. Get "Metamorphosis" and figure out what shapes, colors, etc. work for your coloring and body type. Expect to spend some time up front trying on a lot of clothes so you can develop a mental model. Afterwards, shopping will get easier. You will be able to look at a rack of clothes and say 'wrong color', 'wrong shape', 'no..no..no..yes, I will try this one thing on'. Most of the time, the first thing I try on is the best thing for me to buy because I can pick it out so well. With regards to comfort: For me, cotton, nylon, and silk are good materials. I am okay with rayon. I avoid polyester like the plague, which is hard because so many things are a cotton-polyester blend. I wear a lot of knits, something men generally can't get away with for a business look but something I find is wonderful in terms of comfort and a woman can it wear to work. I'm just careful to get the right weight of knit material that works for me/my look. That will differ from person to person. I don't get your remark about making people take you seriously. Do you mean the sales people?
    - blots 17y ago
      about the "making people take you seriously". I got some comments about me looking like a sixteen year old schoolgirl while I'm about 25. Well, I'm not particularly tall. But thinking about it, it's probably more about self esteem than a dressing issue.
      - Mz 17y ago
        There are some things you can do to "dress older". My sister dressed in very "serious" clothes in her twenties and people often didn't fully realize how young she was. But I still have people think I am about 5 years younger than I am. Given that I get viewed as younger than I really am even on the internet, I think it has a behavioral/attitudinal component and isn't just about looks. I have read of examples in various books of taking a cute, petite woman and dressing her much more seriously in order to overcome the cuteness factor and get her taken seriously. On the other hand, my 22 year old son gets misread as being a lot younger than he is and he doesn't hesitate to take advantage of such assumptions. Just tossing that out there as food for thought: Maybe it isn't only a problem. Maybe there is also an opportunity in there.

by blots 17y ago

Mz 17y ago

I don't use make-up. I'm allergic to everything. So no tips on that from me. As for clothes: Pick up a copy of David Kibbe's "Metamorphosis". Learn what clothing shapes, patterns (stripes, polka dots, etc) and colors work best for you. Get a good hair cut for your hair type and face shape. If you have any health issues, work on those. Healthy people look better, regardless of what they wear. Once you have some idea of the shapes, colors, etc you need to focus on, try on lots and lots of clothes but only buy those things that are both very comfortable to wear and are also flattering. (With practice, it gets easier to shop once you know what works for you. You can eliminate most clothes in the store without trying them on once you have this knowledge.) If you are physically comfortable in your clothes, it helps you pull off a sense of "style" in the eyes of others. Elegance is not just about the clothes you wear but about how you move and that is enhanced by being physically comfortable. If you have self image issues negatively impacting your clothing choices, the best solution to that is probably having a positive intimate relationship with the right person so you Get Over It. If you want to learn about power dressing, there is only one book that I know of which is based on actual research into what works: "Dress for Success" by John T. Malloy. It's apparently been updated a few times. Searching for it on Amazon brings up "New Women's Dress for Success". I've read a lot of clothing books over the years. A lot of them don't have much value. If you want good results without investing a lot of time and effort into it, those two books are must haves and most of the rest can be ignored.

blots 17y ago
Thanks, for some reason it didn't occur to me that there could be books on that. Honestly, I can't stand shopping for clothing, you can waste an entire day and not find anything that's "both very comfortable to wear and [...] also flattering" and making people take you seriously.
- Mz 17y ago
  Most of the time, I spend very little time shopping for clothes. I have been known to pull something off the rack and buy it without trying it on and have it work out fine. Get "Metamorphosis" and figure out what shapes, colors, etc. work for your coloring and body type. Expect to spend some time up front trying on a lot of clothes so you can develop a mental model. Afterwards, shopping will get easier. You will be able to look at a rack of clothes and say 'wrong color', 'wrong shape', 'no..no..no..yes, I will try this one thing on'. Most of the time, the first thing I try on is the best thing for me to buy because I can pick it out so well. With regards to comfort: For me, cotton, nylon, and silk are good materials. I am okay with rayon. I avoid polyester like the plague, which is hard because so many things are a cotton-polyester blend. I wear a lot of knits, something men generally can't get away with for a business look but something I find is wonderful in terms of comfort and a woman can it wear to work. I'm just careful to get the right weight of knit material that works for me/my look. That will differ from person to person. I don't get your remark about making people take you seriously. Do you mean the sales people?
  - blots 17y ago
    about the "making people take you seriously". I got some comments about me looking like a sixteen year old schoolgirl while I'm about 25. Well, I'm not particularly tall. But thinking about it, it's probably more about self esteem than a dressing issue.
    - Mz 17y ago
      There are some things you can do to "dress older". My sister dressed in very "serious" clothes in her twenties and people often didn't fully realize how young she was. But I still have people think I am about 5 years younger than I am. Given that I get viewed as younger than I really am even on the internet, I think it has a behavioral/attitudinal component and isn't just about looks. I have read of examples in various books of taking a cute, petite woman and dressing her much more seriously in order to overcome the cuteness factor and get her taken seriously. On the other hand, my 22 year old son gets misread as being a lot younger than he is and he doesn't hesitate to take advantage of such assumptions. Just tossing that out there as food for thought: Maybe it isn't only a problem. Maybe there is also an opportunity in there.