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Why are they talking specifically about _feigning_ surprise? Isn't the effect the same even if you're honestly surprised?
by Bromskloss 10y ago
Why are they talking specifically about _feigning_ surprise? Isn't the effect the same even if you're honestly surprised?
- kbenson 10y agoIf you're honestly surprised (and can't/don't hide it), the effect on the other person may be similar, but that's the nature of communication. Feigning surprise is manufacturing a situation with negative aspects.
- SyneRyder 10y agoI think the effect is the same. But that's also why I liked the link - I'm sometimes honestly surprised, or seeking clarification (eg "So you really haven't heard of the Playstation 4.5 & Playstation VR? But I thought you were a PS4 gamer?"). But by expressing it as feigning surprise, I understand that the other person feels I'm belittling or mocking them, even if that wasn't my intent. For me at least, it was a better explanation than XKCD 1053: https://xkcd.com/1053/ https://xkcd.com/1053/