I think a big part of it is that a lot of people think that having kids is expected of them. I applaud the people who know what they want and follow through no

I think a big part of it is that a lot of people think that having kids is expected of them. I applaud the people who know what they want and follow through no matter what expectations are put on them. Be it with not getting married or not having kids (or vice versa). I wanted kids and so did my wife, our views were the same and we ended up having two kids. It has brought immense happiness to me (and sleep deprivation). I wish I could see them more but I value the time I have with them when I'm home from work. I would never tell anyone they have to have kids or get married. I can share my experiences but how the hell am I supposed to know what makes you happy, you need to find that out and stick to it.