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For me, having kids is the most fulfilling thing happening in my life. Honestly, that advice is terrible.

• collyw 10y ago
  When people say kids are the most fulfilling thing in their life, is it because they are didn't have anything really fulfilling in their life before that? I get fulfillment for my job some of the time - though its not the be all and end all in my life and it pissed me off sometimes too. I get a lot more from whitewater kayaking and mountain biking and generally being outdoors in my spare time. Some of my friends have had kids, and most have given up or seriously cut down on the amount that they devote to the sports they loved. Did you have something that gave you a lot of fulfillment before you had kids?
  • greyman 10y ago
    > Did you have something that gave you a lot of fulfillment before you had kids? Yes, and I still do. I am a soft dev, so job is quite fulfilling, I also like mountain hiking, friends, etc. But having a kid is something different, it is just not comparable regarding the level of satisfaction. For me the relationship with my kid is the most fulfilling thing a world can offer. (But of course I wouldnt believe that before I had one)
  • yarrel 10y ago
    > When people say kids are the most fulfilling thing in their life, is it because they are didn't have anything really fulfilling in their life before that? No. > Did you have something that gave you a lot of fulfillment before you had kids? Many things, and I still do. But it's certainly a trade off, trying to live out media images of motherhood/fatherhood need to be avoided, and kids don't have to be the most fulfilling thing in anyone's life.