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As an Asian male new to the Bay Area, this has been something that I can relate too. At workplace and coffee shops, restaurants and almost any place, I've strug

by theyeti 10y ago

As an Asian male new to the Bay Area, this has been something that I can relate too. At workplace and coffee shops, restaurants and almost any place, I've struggled to answer the question "How're you doing ?". The author summarizes it quite well.

mwfunk 10y ago
You're not expected to answer the question, just say "not bad" or "pretty good" and move on.
- KC8ZKF 10y ago
  Add "You?" to be polite.
- int_19h 10y ago
  Indeed. The problem is that it's kinda hard to make yourself do it and not come off as insincere when you're not culturally conditioned to do so from a very early age. You can learn, but it still requires a conscious effort.
freyr 10y ago
As a white male who grew up in the U.S., I also struggle with cash register small talk. I typically just say "Fine, thanks" and the conversation ends abruptly. I struggle with small talk in general, so I guess the cash register gives a good, low-stakes opportunity to practice.
Avshalom 10y ago
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phatic_expression https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phatic_expression
juandazapata 10y ago
Fine thanks, I'd like a latte please (smile).