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Agreed. We've used the "let them cry it out with increasing times between consoling visits" for all 4 of our kids and they hardly have any of the symptoms the a

by scottw 17y ago

Agreed. We've used the "let them cry it out with increasing times between consoling visits" for all 4 of our kids and they hardly have any of the symptoms the author claims. This is the kind of science I love: figuring out what's right for everyone by looking at averages. Babies have different kinds of cries and parents have different needs. I'll say for myself and my wife that letting them cry it out seemed to help them learn to sleep alone in a far shorter time than any of our peers' kids. Sure, maybe our kids are different, but when I see the kind of entitlement parenting that often goes with the "cater to every cry" method, I'm less and less astonished at the self-centered attitude of the modern teen.

jasonlotito 17y ago
I see the complete flip side. My son is happy, can fall asleep fine on his own, and enjoys playing with his cousins as well as with himself and his toys, all at 15 months, and I'd sooner gouge out my eye then let him cry it out. He's a baby, and I don't see how any parent could sit by and let a child with tears in his eyes sit alone in the dark and ignore him. I'm not one to tell people how to parent their children, so don't take any of the preceding as me passing judgement on you; rather, it's merely my view on it. However, "parents have different needs" sounds wrong. I'm all for parents still meeting their own needs and their partners, but any parent that can't put the child's needs ahead of their own when needed is neglecting their child. I don't think that's what you mean, mind you. But, I'm sure you're aware of the parents out there who put their needs before their child's without thought or consideration, and that just strikes me as wrong. As for why I think it bothers parents so much what other parents do when they perceive it as wrong, I think a lot of it has to do with the thinking "If that is what I was doing to my children..." and not liking what would happen.

by scottw 17y ago

jasonlotito 17y ago

I see the complete flip side. My son is happy, can fall asleep fine on his own, and enjoys playing with his cousins as well as with himself and his toys, all at 15 months, and I'd sooner gouge out my eye then let him cry it out. He's a baby, and I don't see how any parent could sit by and let a child with tears in his eyes sit alone in the dark and ignore him. I'm not one to tell people how to parent their children, so don't take any of the preceding as me passing judgement on you; rather, it's merely my view on it. However, "parents have different needs" sounds wrong. I'm all for parents still meeting their own needs and their partners, but any parent that can't put the child's needs ahead of their own when needed is neglecting their child. I don't think that's what you mean, mind you. But, I'm sure you're aware of the parents out there who put their needs before their child's without thought or consideration, and that just strikes me as wrong. As for why I think it bothers parents so much what other parents do when they perceive it as wrong, I think a lot of it has to do with the thinking "If that is what I was doing to my children..." and not liking what would happen.