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Why do you find it "frustrating"?

by Roridge 17y ago

andrewcooke 17y ago
well, you can check my recent comments, but one way of looking at is that it's a "judgement" that doesn't fit with my own idea of what is good and bad. this is a simple way to avoid having to consciously reconcile the difference.
- Roridge 17y ago
  So you are frustrated because you feel it gets misused. Or that you don't enjoy having your opinions rated? (I'm not trying to be factious, I'm genuinely interested) I saw one of the things you listed in previous comments is you don't get up voted when you get closest to the correct answer. Is it that important?
  - andrewcooke 17y ago
    i think i explained it elsewhere as feeling like a judgement that's not consistent with my own standards. so both of the examples you give (misuse and rating) are part of that. it's a little like having a label stamped everywhere saying "good" and "bad" that you constantly have to ignore, because it's not your set of values. obviously the same kind of thing happens in real life, but there conversation is much more fluid, so these signs are transient and negotiable. also, there's not a finite number of rooms in which you can chat to other people - it's easier to adapt the context. someone else has said how they managed to get over this in the shower. good for them. i got over it by writing a greasemonkey script. generally i find writing a script to be easier than changing my (largely subconscious) cognitive processes, but ymmv.
    - Roridge 17y ago
      I am intrigued that it means so much to people that their opinions are accepted by everyone. Perhaps I don't understand completely, but when you wrote that you "got over it" that surprised me as I couldn't imagine there really is anything to get over. I appreciate your reply though, I am always interested to understand peoples frustrations with such things. Whether it is with my own applications or other peoples.
      - andrewcooke 17y ago
        i am not saying that i want to be accepted by everyone. i am saying that i don't want to be constantly reminded that i am not. in a "real life" social context such signs are transitory and adaptable. here, they were not. now they are.

Why do you find it "frustrating"?

by Roridge 17y ago

Why do you find it "frustrating"?

well, you can check my recent comments, but one way of looking at is that it's a "judgement" that doesn't fit with my own idea of what is good and bad. this is a simple way to avoid having to consciously reconcile the difference.

Roridge 17y ago
So you are frustrated because you feel it gets misused. Or that you don't enjoy having your opinions rated? (I'm not trying to be factious, I'm genuinely interested) I saw one of the things you listed in previous comments is you don't get up voted when you get closest to the correct answer. Is it that important?
- andrewcooke 17y ago
  i think i explained it elsewhere as feeling like a judgement that's not consistent with my own standards. so both of the examples you give (misuse and rating) are part of that. it's a little like having a label stamped everywhere saying "good" and "bad" that you constantly have to ignore, because it's not your set of values. obviously the same kind of thing happens in real life, but there conversation is much more fluid, so these signs are transient and negotiable. also, there's not a finite number of rooms in which you can chat to other people - it's easier to adapt the context. someone else has said how they managed to get over this in the shower. good for them. i got over it by writing a greasemonkey script. generally i find writing a script to be easier than changing my (largely subconscious) cognitive processes, but ymmv.
  - Roridge 17y ago
    I am intrigued that it means so much to people that their opinions are accepted by everyone. Perhaps I don't understand completely, but when you wrote that you "got over it" that surprised me as I couldn't imagine there really is anything to get over. I appreciate your reply though, I am always interested to understand peoples frustrations with such things. Whether it is with my own applications or other peoples.
    - andrewcooke 17y ago
      i am not saying that i want to be accepted by everyone. i am saying that i don't want to be constantly reminded that i am not. in a "real life" social context such signs are transitory and adaptable. here, they were not. now they are.