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I deleted my FB account several years ago and you'd be surprised how many actually find my email when they want to invite me for something. If someone can't be

by tyfon 10y ago

I deleted my FB account several years ago and you'd be surprised how many actually find my email when they want to invite me for something. If someone can't be bothered to send me an email I'm not too concerned about going to their party.

jacobush 10y ago
They (FB) prey on us with perceived or actual low enough social standing for us to not be found by email.
- Jaruzel 10y ago
  My email address is so obvious, in fact you can even work it out from my user id, however that still doesn't stop my so-called 'friends' telling me they didn't know how to contact me during my FB detox periods. Some people just don't want the friction that having to actually send an email, brings. Go figure.
  - lostlogin 10y ago
    Someone always hits 'reply all' and ruins it for everyone.
    - DKnoll3 10y ago
      Good luck trying to hit "Reply-All" when the email is sent correctly (all recipients are BCC for their own privacy).
pantalaimon 10y ago
I don't view going to parties as a chore, I actually enjoy them - so I don't want to miss out. It's nice to see what events your friends are interested in too. And for spontaneous events (wanna hang out in the park this afternoon?), facebook group chat is still the common denominator, although that might change with facebook forcing people to install their messenger in order to being able to use it on mobile.
throwanem 10y ago
I never had one, and you'd be surprised how many don't. This has caused me to miss camping trips, parties, dinners, and weddings. Of course it's possible that I'm just such an obnoxious person that nobody wants me around, but if that were the case, I doubt I'd have received such abject and clearly heartfelt apologies from people who didn't invite me to things because I wasn't on their Facebook friends list. Of course, such apologies always come with the implicit "...but if you don't get on Facebook, it's going to keep happening." I actually started to create a Facebook account, but refused to continue past the point where it asked for my email account credentials in order to construct a friends list from my correspondents. Yes, I'm aware that's optional and can be bypassed - but when the relationship starts out with a boundary test as blatant and extreme as that, I'm really not interested in hanging around to find out where my new abusive partner is going to decide to go from there. So I still don't have a Facebook account. As a direct result of this, I also don't have a meaningful social life any more, which is a shame, because I rather enjoyed the one I did have. I'm hardly alone in this. Is it any wonder there are people who want to kill Facebook with a hatchet?
- bogomipz 10y ago
  Weddings really? That's sad. Using FB to send out wedding invites seems pretty gauche.
  - throwanem 10y ago
    No, using a Facebook friends list as a basis for an invitation list, and forgetting to add in the couple of people you know who aren't on Facebook because you haven't noticed that Facebook has become your address book of record. It's just not something people think about, and that worries the hell out of me. We've never before seen a world where a single, rather secretive corporation, which has already shown itself willing to experiment with its users' perceptions in order to better serve its own purposes, mediates practically every interpersonal relationship of a significant fraction of the species. When I was growing up, that would've been nothing but fodder for third-rate dystopian sf, and yet here we are.
type0 10y ago
I missed plenty of bithday parties because of facebok. I usually just call and congratulate in those cases, people feel awkward and then say "you need to get on fb". If I do show up after the call it often messes things up, like their plan for some number of seats of something. I thing facebookers perceive non-fakebookers as antisocial. I'm okay with that, I'm also okay that people erode the friendship because I'm not on fakebook, it means you weren't a real friend after all because you weren't also friend on fb, how simple is it really!

by tyfon 10y ago

jacobush 10y ago

They (FB) prey on us with perceived or actual low enough social standing for us to not be found by email.

Jaruzel 10y ago
My email address is so obvious, in fact you can even work it out from my user id, however that still doesn't stop my so-called 'friends' telling me they didn't know how to contact me during my FB detox periods. Some people just don't want the friction that having to actually send an email, brings. Go figure.
- lostlogin 10y ago
  Someone always hits 'reply all' and ruins it for everyone.
  - DKnoll3 10y ago
    Good luck trying to hit "Reply-All" when the email is sent correctly (all recipients are BCC for their own privacy).

pantalaimon 10y ago

I don't view going to parties as a chore, I actually enjoy them - so I don't want to miss out. It's nice to see what events your friends are interested in too. And for spontaneous events (wanna hang out in the park this afternoon?), facebook group chat is still the common denominator, although that might change with facebook forcing people to install their messenger in order to being able to use it on mobile.

throwanem 10y ago

I never had one, and you'd be surprised how many don't. This has caused me to miss camping trips, parties, dinners, and weddings. Of course it's possible that I'm just such an obnoxious person that nobody wants me around, but if that were the case, I doubt I'd have received such abject and clearly heartfelt apologies from people who didn't invite me to things because I wasn't on their Facebook friends list. Of course, such apologies always come with the implicit "...but if you don't get on Facebook, it's going to keep happening." I actually started to create a Facebook account, but refused to continue past the point where it asked for my email account credentials in order to construct a friends list from my correspondents. Yes, I'm aware that's optional and can be bypassed - but when the relationship starts out with a boundary test as blatant and extreme as that, I'm really not interested in hanging around to find out where my new abusive partner is going to decide to go from there. So I still don't have a Facebook account. As a direct result of this, I also don't have a meaningful social life any more, which is a shame, because I rather enjoyed the one I did have. I'm hardly alone in this. Is it any wonder there are people who want to kill Facebook with a hatchet?

bogomipz 10y ago
Weddings really? That's sad. Using FB to send out wedding invites seems pretty gauche.
- throwanem 10y ago
  No, using a Facebook friends list as a basis for an invitation list, and forgetting to add in the couple of people you know who aren't on Facebook because you haven't noticed that Facebook has become your address book of record. It's just not something people think about, and that worries the hell out of me. We've never before seen a world where a single, rather secretive corporation, which has already shown itself willing to experiment with its users' perceptions in order to better serve its own purposes, mediates practically every interpersonal relationship of a significant fraction of the species. When I was growing up, that would've been nothing but fodder for third-rate dystopian sf, and yet here we are.

type0 10y ago

I missed plenty of bithday parties because of facebok. I usually just call and congratulate in those cases, people feel awkward and then say "you need to get on fb". If I do show up after the call it often messes things up, like their plan for some number of seats of something. I thing facebookers perceive non-fakebookers as antisocial. I'm okay with that, I'm also okay that people erode the friendship because I'm not on fakebook, it means you weren't a real friend after all because you weren't also friend on fb, how simple is it really!