The short response I'd say is: mindfulness. I think every human is capable is discerning positive and negative behavior if the said human is observing the situ

The short response I'd say is: mindfulness. I think every human is capable is discerning positive and negative behavior if the said human is observing the situation as an outsider. Practicing mindfulness allows you to be able to remove yourself from the equation and be more aware of your mind's reactions and behaviors even when you are caught in a difficult situation. Find the book: Search Inside Yourself on Amazon and start with that. Hopefully that'll help you with your journey.