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> stop caring about being right This is either bad advice, or poorly phrased. There are many domains where being right actually really does matter. Engineering
by afarrell 10y ago
> stop caring about being right
This is either bad advice, or poorly phrased. There are many domains where being right actually really does matter. Engineering is one of them.
But being right is very very different than getting the last word. It involves a lot more listening.
- wccrawford 10y ago> stop caring about being right There's 2 ways to take this statement. The first is the way you took it, in that you care to only say things that are correct. However, most people (especially "toxic" ones) are more focused on not being proven wrong than on being correct in the first place. "Being right" to them is having everyone think they're right, even if they're actually wrong. They eventually show their attitude by saying things like, "He never implements my ideas." or "He doesn't take my ideas seriously."
- afarrell 10y agoThe third way is to be willing to say things that are incorrect, collaborating with someone else to come to a more correct understanding.