Do you have friends or trusted co-workers at work? Reason I ask is because I used to work with a guy that was a genius programmer. He was a sweet guy at heart,

Do you have friends or trusted co-workers at work? Reason I ask is because I used to work with a guy that was a genius programmer. He was a sweet guy at heart, but he was often very caustic -- especially when things were moving too slowly for his taste. He was also very, very loud. (If I had to guess, I'd say this guy had Aspergers, but that's just an armchair diagnosis...) Over time he and I developed a rapport and became pretty good friends. I'd help him see others' points of view and when he was being too loud, I had a little hand signal I gave him that meant, "You are being louder than you think you are being!" Not that I was perfect, in fact pretty far from it, but anyway... if you are close enough to your co-workers you could proactively let them know that you're working on these things and would appreciate help, like some subtle (or not to subtle) real-time feedback when you're going over the line. Good luck! I think you can do it!