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Well, for the 14% of the population that works on, sure. Confidence is key, but there is a difference between a confident stud and a confident creep.

by powauth 17y ago

RevRal 17y ago
I'm not sure what a confident creep would be like. Confidence is confidence. A confident man knows restraint, and as long as he's good with restraint, he's not in danger of being a creep. It is good to play with expectations, to acknowledge them without actually "acknowledging" them. A creep wouldn't have the confidence to let this play out; they have to confirm that the other person is aware of the "acknowledgment" being played out. It's like some guy saying "did you get it? Did you get the joke?" Except the creep is saying this with everything he does. His body language, tone, talking speed, and even with his language. A "confident creep" is a contradiction.
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- powauth 17y ago
  This may just boil down to semantics, but I would call the hypothetical "confident man" you are talking about a confident, socially skilled man. My "confident creep" has inner confidence in his abilities (he might even think of himself as a god among men), but he cannot correctly project his confidence (though in his mind, he is projecting it correctly). He can drop any empathy and ask such a question without being nervous, but his style, dress, conversation, etc. are so awkward, it fails. Point being: Confidence is not the only thing that matters. You actually need social skills.
ericb 17y ago
The difference between a confident stud, and a confident creep, illustrated (sometimes comedy is the best way to make a point): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBVuAGFcGKY http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBVuAGFcGKY
- nazgulnarsil 17y ago
  you'd honestly be amazed at the effectiveness of confidence for unattractive guys. also pro-tip: just because you don't consider yourself attractive doesn't mean that dressing well and taking care of yourself doesn't do wonders.
- powauth 17y ago
  lol, creep perhaps. But hardly confident :p

Well, for the 14% of the population that works on, sure. Confidence is key, but there is a difference between a confident stud and a confident creep.

by powauth 17y ago

Well, for the 14% of the population that works on, sure. Confidence is key, but there is a difference between a confident stud and a confident creep.

RevRal 17y ago

I'm not sure what a confident creep would be like. Confidence is confidence. A confident man knows restraint, and as long as he's good with restraint, he's not in danger of being a creep. It is good to play with expectations, to acknowledge them without actually "acknowledging" them. A creep wouldn't have the confidence to let this play out; they have to confirm that the other person is aware of the "acknowledgment" being played out. It's like some guy saying "did you get it? Did you get the joke?" Except the creep is saying this with everything he does. His body language, tone, talking speed, and even with his language. A "confident creep" is a contradiction.

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powauth 17y ago
This may just boil down to semantics, but I would call the hypothetical "confident man" you are talking about a confident, socially skilled man. My "confident creep" has inner confidence in his abilities (he might even think of himself as a god among men), but he cannot correctly project his confidence (though in his mind, he is projecting it correctly). He can drop any empathy and ask such a question without being nervous, but his style, dress, conversation, etc. are so awkward, it fails. Point being: Confidence is not the only thing that matters. You actually need social skills.

ericb 17y ago

The difference between a confident stud, and a confident creep, illustrated (sometimes comedy is the best way to make a point): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBVuAGFcGKY http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBVuAGFcGKY

nazgulnarsil 17y ago
you'd honestly be amazed at the effectiveness of confidence for unattractive guys. also pro-tip: just because you don't consider yourself attractive doesn't mean that dressing well and taking care of yourself doesn't do wonders.
powauth 17y ago
lol, creep perhaps. But hardly confident :p