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I could never do it. I just can't. I'm too much of a coward. I think I might die if I asked.
by sown 17y ago
I could never do it.
I just can't.
I'm too much of a coward. I think I might die if I asked.
- pstuart 17y agoThat's the best part--you don't die. You might even live a little.
- RevRal 17y agoa failure of a hacker who doesn't have the energy to do much of anything anymore :( Sorry, brother. I don't know how bad it is, but I've been in similar situations. I do know it takes a lot of energy to get going again, and that a minuscule amount of energy, every day, accumulates into progress. I wouldn't concern myself with the girls, yet.
- davidmurphy 17y agoOr you might die a little death! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/La_petite_mort http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/La_petite_mort
- vidarh 17y agoI used to think that too. Get a coach. Seriously. Whether just a friend, or someone who is paid. Doesn't need to be about "pickup" at all - just someone to push you into going up to random strangers and strike up a conversation until you're so desensitized to it you just get used to talking to anyone and saying anything you like. You're likely to find that having a friend physically force you to take the first step will make it immensely easier, and after a while you'll hesitate less and less. Takes practice, like anything else, especially if you've allowed yourself to build up "barriers" against it in you mind.
- mhartl 17y agoIt sounds bizarre, but by far the best thing I ever did in this direction was to start wearing Vibram Five Fingers in public. They look like crazy monkey shoes, and initially I was mortified at drawing such attention to myself, but within a few months I had completely adjusted. Moreover, they are an incredible ice-breaker: I've had more conversations with strangers in the last 1.5 years than in the previous rest of my life combined.