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The entire book (Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman) is amazing and hilarious. I highly recommend it for the HN crowd.

by char 17y ago

zackattack 17y ago
Affiliate link for the lazy! http://www.amazon.com/dp/0393316041/?tag=httpwwwhiph02-20 http://www.amazon.com/dp/0393316041/?tag=httpwwwhiph02-20
- jbyers 17y ago
  [deleted] I should have just down-voted the affiliate link and left it at that. Something's changed in the tenor of comments here on HN, and my reaction to it isn't productive. For the foreseeable future, I think I'm going to bite my tongue and read in silence.
  - zackattack 17y ago
    How is that principled?? You hate when others benefit even if it's at no detriment to you?? SCARCITY THINKING :_( Okay, if you like reading text on your screen, you can also read it for free here: http://www.gorgorat.com http://www.gorgorat.com
    - Estragon 17y ago
      The principle is to minimize the reward from spam.
      - glhaynes 17y ago
        So shouldn't we just downvote the ones that are spammy -- those that make the conversation worse instead of better?
        branden 17y ago
        Shouldn't making the conversation better be its own incentive?
        glhaynes 17y ago
        People do things because of a broad variety of motivations. Often because of a combination of motivations. If it's helping and not hurting, who cares?
    - drinian 17y ago
      Someone registered that domain name just to host a pirated copy of a book? (Mind, it's one of my favorite books).
      - jey 17y ago
        Hm, looks like it's a way to funnel PageRank into some spam links at the bottom of the page. I guess the theory is that people will link to that domain's copy of Surely You're Joking and pass some of the subsequent "google juice" onward to the spam.
    - jbyers 17y ago
      I'm happy for people to benefit online in proportion to the value they provide to others. Post a thoughtful comment, write a review, link previously disparate ideas? Sure, put in an affiliate link. Hijack the top comment on a thread with just an Amazon link? Not so much. At least you were up front about it, I'll give you that. :)
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ErrantX 17y ago
It's a wonderful anecdote, but where to begin.. I was pretty hopeless at the whole dating game till I read The Game and started to try it out; it was a brilliant read. But the bare truth of it is that it doesn't actually work all that well. Oh yeh sure you can be a PUA and grab some fairly shallow girls - but it's a bit boring to be honest (and your success rate is fairly low - you "win" by asking lots of women). The only thing The Game gives you is confidence; which is 90% of the trick. Indeed the best advice in this article is twofold. - Confidence (subtly suggested) is a big factor. She's talking to you - if your not confident she'll only stay out of sympathy - Dont pay for everything/anything; the best advice you will ever learn. I had plenty of crap dates spending loads of money in the hope of getting laid and it invariably went nowhere (a kiss on the cheek usually, bah). Till one date the girl randomly said "I'm not going to sleep with you tonight, can we just have a nice time" - so with no real investment in the evening we had an awesome fun just spending time together. Now when I go on a date the first thing I'll say is "so do you want to get the first round or the second?". It's subtle but works brilliantly; usually we share the rounds and have a great time (and maybe sleep together, but I find that a less important conclusion now) Against all the odds Im a pretty good dater. So when my friends ask for advice or help I usually say: - go on a date just to have a good time with a girl, not just to sleep with her - share the costs - dont be gentlemanly at the end of the night. She's a person too and if she's not interested in getting laid she'll just say no - be confident. She's on a date with you already!! :)
- jhollandsworth 17y ago
  When reading any of the PUA stuff, you have to realize that the common threads are simply communicating effectively, having confidence, breaking out of your shell, and simply displaying YOUR personality in a fashion that makes you attractive. I think the issue with a lot of people blindly following the advice and material is that they understand the science but don't understand the delivery. The things you learn here should help you out in ALL facets of life that involve social interaction. Mold them to fit your needs and you'll be set. Sounds like its worked for you!
  - ErrantX 17y ago

The entire book (Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman) is amazing and hilarious. I highly recommend it for the HN crowd.

by char 17y ago

The entire book (Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman) is amazing and hilarious. I highly recommend it for the HN crowd.

Affiliate link for the lazy! http://www.amazon.com/dp/0393316041/?tag=httpwwwhiph02-20 http://www.amazon.com/dp/0393316041/?tag=httpwwwhiph02-20

jbyers 17y ago
[deleted] I should have just down-voted the affiliate link and left it at that. Something's changed in the tenor of comments here on HN, and my reaction to it isn't productive. For the foreseeable future, I think I'm going to bite my tongue and read in silence.
- zackattack 17y ago
  How is that principled?? You hate when others benefit even if it's at no detriment to you?? SCARCITY THINKING :_( Okay, if you like reading text on your screen, you can also read it for free here: http://www.gorgorat.com http://www.gorgorat.com
  - Estragon 17y ago
    The principle is to minimize the reward from spam.
    - glhaynes 17y ago
      So shouldn't we just downvote the ones that are spammy -- those that make the conversation worse instead of better?
      - branden 17y ago
        Shouldn't making the conversation better be its own incentive?
        glhaynes 17y ago
        People do things because of a broad variety of motivations. Often because of a combination of motivations. If it's helping and not hurting, who cares?
  - drinian 17y ago
    Someone registered that domain name just to host a pirated copy of a book? (Mind, it's one of my favorite books).
    - jey 17y ago
      Hm, looks like it's a way to funnel PageRank into some spam links at the bottom of the page. I guess the theory is that people will link to that domain's copy of Surely You're Joking and pass some of the subsequent "google juice" onward to the spam.
  - jbyers 17y ago
    I'm happy for people to benefit online in proportion to the value they provide to others. Post a thoughtful comment, write a review, link previously disparate ideas? Sure, put in an affiliate link. Hijack the top comment on a thread with just an Amazon link? Not so much. At least you were up front about it, I'll give you that. :)
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ErrantX 17y ago

It's a wonderful anecdote, but where to begin.. I was pretty hopeless at the whole dating game till I read The Game and started to try it out; it was a brilliant read. But the bare truth of it is that it doesn't actually work all that well. Oh yeh sure you can be a PUA and grab some fairly shallow girls - but it's a bit boring to be honest (and your success rate is fairly low - you "win" by asking lots of women). The only thing The Game gives you is confidence; which is 90% of the trick. Indeed the best advice in this article is twofold. - Confidence (subtly suggested) is a big factor. She's talking to you - if your not confident she'll only stay out of sympathy - Dont pay for everything/anything; the best advice you will ever learn. I had plenty of crap dates spending loads of money in the hope of getting laid and it invariably went nowhere (a kiss on the cheek usually, bah). Till one date the girl randomly said "I'm not going to sleep with you tonight, can we just have a nice time" - so with no real investment in the evening we had an awesome fun just spending time together. Now when I go on a date the first thing I'll say is "so do you want to get the first round or the second?". It's subtle but works brilliantly; usually we share the rounds and have a great time (and maybe sleep together, but I find that a less important conclusion now) Against all the odds Im a pretty good dater. So when my friends ask for advice or help I usually say: - go on a date just to have a good time with a girl, not just to sleep with her - share the costs - dont be gentlemanly at the end of the night. She's a person too and if she's not interested in getting laid she'll just say no - be confident. She's on a date with you already!! :)

jhollandsworth 17y ago
When reading any of the PUA stuff, you have to realize that the common threads are simply communicating effectively, having confidence, breaking out of your shell, and simply displaying YOUR personality in a fashion that makes you attractive. I think the issue with a lot of people blindly following the advice and material is that they understand the science but don't understand the delivery. The things you learn here should help you out in ALL facets of life that involve social interaction. Mold them to fit your needs and you'll be set. Sounds like its worked for you!
- ErrantX 17y ago