I'm glad you bring up these points. It boils down to viewing conflict resolution as being (often) a temporary matter of information sharing with rationality as

I'm glad you bring up these points. It boils down to viewing conflict resolution as being (often) a temporary matter of information sharing with rationality as the ultimate goal. People who enjoy having authority for its own sake are usually not good at this, since they think they have earned the right to be authoritative, and resist the dialog necessary to achieve true consensus.