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If someone repeatedly raped and made inappropriate sexual comments about your family members banning them from family events would be considered about the milde

If someone repeatedly raped and made inappropriate sexual comments about your family members banning them from family events would be considered about the mildest thing you could do. This guy should be in prison for rape. But even disregarding the actual illegal things this guy has done, his other behavior alone disqualifies him from interacting with others in the community, esp. as a community leader.

js8 10y ago
I agree with that, assuming he is guilty. On the other hand, it's up to the particular community (or employer) to weight the situation. I don't think doing something illegal should mean that every community should shun you, and it seems to me that's what the article calls for.
- frandroid 10y ago
  It's a warning to other communities that unless he changes his ways, which probably involves undergoing therapy, there is a high likelihood that he will be a threat to women elsewhere. Communities can and will do what they want, but his history should be known so that people don't advertently put more women at risk of his predatory behaviour.
  - js8 10y ago
    I certainly agree with that. I don't however agree that it invalidates the possibly good work that he has done in other areas. (As I explain below, that's what the article seems to claim.)
- stale2002 10y ago
  The problem is that the guy is literally a danger to the community. Allowing him to go to events and parties is literally putting your attendees in danger.
  - js8 10y ago
    If he is, then it should be a police matter. But that may be difficult to do in practice, if the person is outside the U.S. jurisdiction. Another similar case comes to mind: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roman_Polanski_sexual_abuse_case https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roman_Polanski_sexual_abuse_ca...
    - stale2002 10y ago
      If multiple female friends come up to me and tell me that they are comfortable around a person because they said some lewd things or grabbed their butt, I'm not going to respond by saying "oh well why don't you just go to the police and get them arrested". I'm just going to ban the guy from the event. This is not a court of law. If I am running a private event, I can ban people for whatever reason I feel like. And "this person has made multiple people very uncomfortable because of the things he said or has done" seems like a pretty damn good reason to me.

js8 10y ago

I agree with that, assuming he is guilty. On the other hand, it's up to the particular community (or employer) to weight the situation. I don't think doing something illegal should mean that every community should shun you, and it seems to me that's what the article calls for.

frandroid 10y ago
It's a warning to other communities that unless he changes his ways, which probably involves undergoing therapy, there is a high likelihood that he will be a threat to women elsewhere. Communities can and will do what they want, but his history should be known so that people don't advertently put more women at risk of his predatory behaviour.
- js8 10y ago
  I certainly agree with that. I don't however agree that it invalidates the possibly good work that he has done in other areas. (As I explain below, that's what the article seems to claim.)
stale2002 10y ago
The problem is that the guy is literally a danger to the community. Allowing him to go to events and parties is literally putting your attendees in danger.
- js8 10y ago
  If he is, then it should be a police matter. But that may be difficult to do in practice, if the person is outside the U.S. jurisdiction. Another similar case comes to mind: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roman_Polanski_sexual_abuse_case https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roman_Polanski_sexual_abuse_ca...
  - stale2002 10y ago
    If multiple female friends come up to me and tell me that they are comfortable around a person because they said some lewd things or grabbed their butt, I'm not going to respond by saying "oh well why don't you just go to the police and get them arrested". I'm just going to ban the guy from the event. This is not a court of law. If I am running a private event, I can ban people for whatever reason I feel like. And "this person has made multiple people very uncomfortable because of the things he said or has done" seems like a pretty damn good reason to me.