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Can you give any resources, which influenced your thinking in this context?

by vldx 10y ago

wallflower 10y ago
While there are some things that I am very good at naturally, there are many things (especially in the social sphere) that I struggle with. The problem is that I've developed camouflage that makes my acquaintances and even some of my friends think that I am better in some of these areas than I know that I am. Having bought (and eventually given most away) pounds and pounds of self-help/self-improvement books over many years, there are common patterns in each book. They are all marketing to fix X problem with Y techniques. All parts of every technique Y may not work for you. However, like agile/scrum, there are parts of it that may be worth using for you, personally. Having someone that knows you help keep you accountable (even better if you are both keeping each other accountable - or a small group) may work for you. You can also hire a personal coach. The accountability doesn't have to be every day (that is micromanagement and would get exhausting on both sides). Something like once or twice a month can work well. A regular 8am meeting twice a month, for example. It doesn't have to be face to face, it can be over Skype. Finally, you may encounter the strongest resistance from yourself. Simple stuff like going to a yoga class instead of, say, a tech meetup. Or trying to meditate or visualize every day (the key tip here is do it before you turn on your laptop or your phone - do it right away, in the morning, as you roll out of bed). Saying hi to that cute person or not - and regretting it until it fades. You can make excuses until "the cows come home". And in the end, just doing it is what matters. Stoicism 101: A Practical Guide for Entrepreneurs http://fourhourworkweek.com/2009/04/13/stoicism-101-a-practical-guide-for-entrepreneurs/ http://fourhourworkweek.com/2009/04/13/stoicism-101-a-practi... Detaching emotion from action. Many articles talk about this, this is just an example. http://briankim.net/articles/important-remain-emotionally-detached-results/ http://briankim.net/articles/important-remain-emotionally-de... Jia Jiang 100 Days of Rejection http://fearbuster.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy/ http://fearbuster.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy/

Can you give any resources, which influenced your thinking in this context?

by vldx 10y ago

Can you give any resources, which influenced your thinking in this context?

While there are some things that I am very good at naturally, there are many things (especially in the social sphere) that I struggle with. The problem is that I've developed camouflage that makes my acquaintances and even some of my friends think that I am better in some of these areas than I know that I am. Having bought (and eventually given most away) pounds and pounds of self-help/self-improvement books over many years, there are common patterns in each book. They are all marketing to fix X problem with Y techniques. All parts of every technique Y may not work for you. However, like agile/scrum, there are parts of it that may be worth using for you, personally. Having someone that knows you help keep you accountable (even better if you are both keeping each other accountable - or a small group) may work for you. You can also hire a personal coach. The accountability doesn't have to be every day (that is micromanagement and would get exhausting on both sides). Something like once or twice a month can work well. A regular 8am meeting twice a month, for example. It doesn't have to be face to face, it can be over Skype. Finally, you may encounter the strongest resistance from yourself. Simple stuff like going to a yoga class instead of, say, a tech meetup. Or trying to meditate or visualize every day (the key tip here is do it before you turn on your laptop or your phone - do it right away, in the morning, as you roll out of bed). Saying hi to that cute person or not - and regretting it until it fades. You can make excuses until "the cows come home". And in the end, just doing it is what matters. Stoicism 101: A Practical Guide for Entrepreneurs http://fourhourworkweek.com/2009/04/13/stoicism-101-a-practical-guide-for-entrepreneurs/ http://fourhourworkweek.com/2009/04/13/stoicism-101-a-practi... Detaching emotion from action. Many articles talk about this, this is just an example. http://briankim.net/articles/important-remain-emotionally-detached-results/ http://briankim.net/articles/important-remain-emotionally-de... Jia Jiang 100 Days of Rejection http://fearbuster.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy/ http://fearbuster.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy/