What did it for me was choosing to behave as if I lived a charmed life. I'd make my plans under the assumption that it would work out. Things would very rarely

What did it for me was choosing to behave as if I lived a charmed life. I'd make my plans under the assumption that it would work out. Things would very rarely go wrong (thus reinforcing the charmed life angle), and if they ever did, it wouldn't be that hard to fix it anyway. People will forgive an amazing number of things, and the worst case scenario just doesn't happen in practice. It's amazing how much baggage you can shed with this approach. And shedding the baggage makes you more pleasant to be around (even to yourself), thus giving you better opportunities and even more ready forgiveness.