Well yes and no. Let's take another example, voting. I think an ideal democratic process should be that people vote selfishly for their own "well-understood" in

Well yes and no. Let's take another example, voting. I think an ideal democratic process should be that people vote selfishly for their own "well-understood" interest. This "well understood" is crucial, it means all the "therefores" in this logic: one will vote for one's own interest, therefore in one's country's own interest, therefore in the world's best interest, therefore in our universe's best interest. The same for my kids: I want them to have an happy life, therefore I teach them the values that will help them achieve this modest ambition, and these values are modest but also useful for other people: be friendly, open minded, accept life as it comes to you, do not value money for more than it is, do not expect too much from others, do not let your "underbelly" drive your will or your life, read good books, learn how to "garden" friends, be honest, serious, finish what you've started, etc. To me all of these values are stubornly selfish: they draw the surest and well-know way to a happy life, for a normal human being.