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I get that feeling as well, sometimes. Even though I don't want quite your level of isolation, I don't mind working alone or not talking to anyone else in perso
by sseagull 10y ago
I get that feeling as well, sometimes. Even though I don't want quite your level of isolation, I don't mind working alone or not talking to anyone else in person for days (except my wife).
I sometimes think of it as the 'tyranny of the extroverts'. Since they are, well, extroverted, they are the ones controlling the narrative of what's 'normal', while the introverts are too introverted to really speak up. Extroverts are the ones saying cities are better than rural areas since there's more to do, etc (see other HN threads).
I'm with you, though. I will take a quiet, rural or semi-rural area over a city any day.
- hueving 10y agoI'm introverted and I still prefer more population because it offers a lot more diversity in restaurants and grocery stores (I like to eat all kinds of stuff). I also enjoy the bustle of people even though I don't prefer to talk to any random individual.
- tripzilch 10y ago> I don't mind working alone or not talking to anyone else in person for days (except my wife) IMO, there's a huge difference about loneliness between not talking to zero people or only talking to one, in particular if that one person is important in your life such as your wife, as opposed to having had a short chat with the cleaning lady in the hall a week ago. I appreciate that kstenerud was talking about the zero people scenario, and that it's possible to prefer it that way. I think it depends on how well you have the other parts of your life in order?
- sseagull 10y agoI agree. There's certainly a continuum for the desire to be around others. kstenerud is very much at the extreme. But he's not the only one, and there's nothing at all wrong with that.