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Hmmm.... Do you need to see how everyone's private life is, or is this just curiosity? Sure, if you can live with the unnecessary consequences of how some peo

Hmmm.... Do you need to see how everyone's private life is, or is this just curiosity? Sure, if you can live with the unnecessary consequences of how some people might react when their private lives are exposed - Ashley Madison Hack[0] provides a salient recent example [1]. Furthermore, it is obvious to many that some marriages are all for appearances. But they are also for children. They're also to appease nuclear and extended family. I don't understand the line of thinking where you could justify needing to know which other families are staying together "for the children" or "to keep their parents happy." Is it any of your business? Humans have kept their thoughts to themselves throughout their entire history (citation needed). Because the data collection practices of the Internet deceive the average person into giving their private thoughts to a SERP or telemetry-ridden OS, that gives you the right to "rip the bandaid" off everyone? [0]: http://fusion.net/story/195787/whats-going-on-with-ashley-madison/ http://fusion.net/story/195787/whats-going-on-with-ashley-ma... [1]: http://www.alternet.org/news-amp-politics/why-ashely-madison-leak-puts-thousands-women-lgbt-lives-risk http://www.alternet.org/news-amp-politics/why-ashely-madison...

chillacy 10y ago
Though I am personally very pro-privacy, I do think about the parent poster's thoughts sometimes. I have a thought that goes like this: Masturbation. For a long time, this was taboo, both for families and in public discourse (sitcom innuendos, not really taught in lots of sex ed classes, NASA not commenting on space masturbation). We didn't really talk about it, so you'd end up with kids doing this and feeling ashamed. On one hand I see the pro-privacy argument that my business is private, and if gawker posted a blog post on my masturbation habits, it would be deeply intrusive. However in the absence of privacy, we'd see that this is not a big deal, and everyone does it. The latter scenario is the world I'd want to live in, the former is the world I do live in. So privacy allows us to live lives as we would like, while maintaining the appearance that we're living our lives as society allows. This is very good, but at the same time, you could just relax society's restrictions with the same result.
pmarreck 10y ago
Regarding the links... Perhaps, if those intolerant countries realized the TOTAL truth, they might accept it and move on instead of killing people? (note that American intolerance for infidelity is the same as Saudi Arabia and faaaar lower than France.) There are of course things I freely elect to not know. Simple example, the sexual details of all the exes of my current girlfriend. I could ask her and she'd tell me, but I won't. Call it insecurity...

chillacy 10y ago

Though I am personally very pro-privacy, I do think about the parent poster's thoughts sometimes. I have a thought that goes like this: Masturbation. For a long time, this was taboo, both for families and in public discourse (sitcom innuendos, not really taught in lots of sex ed classes, NASA not commenting on space masturbation). We didn't really talk about it, so you'd end up with kids doing this and feeling ashamed. On one hand I see the pro-privacy argument that my business is private, and if gawker posted a blog post on my masturbation habits, it would be deeply intrusive. However in the absence of privacy, we'd see that this is not a big deal, and everyone does it. The latter scenario is the world I'd want to live in, the former is the world I do live in. So privacy allows us to live lives as we would like, while maintaining the appearance that we're living our lives as society allows. This is very good, but at the same time, you could just relax society's restrictions with the same result.

pmarreck 10y ago

Regarding the links... Perhaps, if those intolerant countries realized the TOTAL truth, they might accept it and move on instead of killing people? (note that American intolerance for infidelity is the same as Saudi Arabia and faaaar lower than France.) There are of course things I freely elect to not know. Simple example, the sexual details of all the exes of my current girlfriend. I could ask her and she'd tell me, but I won't. Call it insecurity...