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I'm not sure if my situation is comparable since I'm a lot younger then you are and I haven't married yet. but I can relate to the feelings you describe. I sett
by noverloop 17y ago
I'm not sure if my situation is comparable since I'm a lot younger then you are and I haven't married yet.
but I can relate to the feelings you describe.
I settled when my ego bursted into shiny balls of flame and I really needed someone I could trust 100%.
shifting your ambition away from relationships and learning to compromise is the hardest part.
- risotto 17y agoOh, I dig the "trust 100%" part. When I act like a sociopath and dump a job or a woman, trust issues are always a big part of it. I don't trust my boss/girlfriend enough to talk to him/her about what makes me uneasy, and/or do anything to improve things. So I just cut it off. I am lucky enough right now to have a woman that I trust 99%. I'm still unsure about moving in and marriage, but you made me realize how important she is in my life. She is a friend and a teammate that I can bounce anything off of. I don't always love what she tells me but it feels better than keeping secrets. I'm going to do my best to get that to 100%, and make sure she feels the same way about me.
- switch 17y agoit seems to me that you have the same thread manifesting in most aspects of your life. the getting from 99% to 100% part is good. Perhaps you won't be able to get beyond 99% because of something in your past that makes you reluctant to do 100%. 99% is pretty fucking good if you ask me.