And that's where compassion comes in - we need to recognize that women are conditioned to expect men to be hitting on them (and oblivious to resistance), and wh

And that's where compassion comes in - we need to recognize that women are conditioned to expect men to be hitting on them (and oblivious to resistance), and why they're conditioned (because men actually do hit on them all the time and are oblivious to resistance), and respect that. Whining about how unfair it is that "Nice guys like myself get lumped in with all those jerks" is disrespectful and uncompassionate. It's not about you! You know that thing where other not-nice guys have conditioned women to be cautious? The next moves in that game are insults, name-calling, public humiliation, physical assault/rape, stalking, doxing, etc. Every woman - every woman - has experienced these behaviors themselves, or knows women who have experienced them. Every man knows women who've experienced them too, although many men don't realize it. That stranger asking a woman for her name, where she's from, trying to make social links online, etc... how is she to know that stranger won't be cyberstalking her and showing up at her home later? Because women have good reason to fear that.