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I suppose this is why I don't ever want to marry. I realize that I do not want to give up the independence I have; to have to compromise anything. I want to be
by impeachgod 17y ago
I suppose this is why I don't ever want to marry. I realize that I do not want to give up the independence I have; to have to compromise anything. I want to be like Richard Stallman with his iron stubbornness. I think some people are built for marriage, some are not.
- rajat 17y agoDon't do a startup with other founders either then. Not all compromises mean that you lose something; often it is the only way to win. Insisting on independence can become rigidity. If you aren't ready to compromise, experience with other founders will simply be bitter and acrimonious. I have done four startups now, and have been fortunate enough to have become independent (that was the goal, not to become rich). Each startup has been made immeasurably easier because I have a wife that has helped me, and she too has had to undoubtedly compromise. I have seen what my single co-founders or near founders have experience, and no way would I have gone through my experiences with as much fun as I have had without my wife's support. She has her own indie business now--and nicely profitable it is too--and I take some measure of pride in having helped her with it every day. Helping her has meant putting off or not doing something that I wanted to do. And finally, the LGPL was a compromise.
- Tichy 17y ago"I realize that I do not want to give up the independence I have; to have to compromise anything" But you are compromising: your compromise is that you can't experience marriage.
- impeachgod 17y agoThat would be like saying that "my compromise is that I couldn't experience prison."
- Tichy 17y agoHow is marriage like prison? It's mainly meant to save taxes and to enable you to see your spouse in the hospital.
- ytinas 17y agoExcept that prison is almost exclusively bad and marriage doesn't have to be. For example, someone did a study a while back to prove that married men were happier then unmarried men because marriage made them happier. They didn't end up proving that but they did discover that on average married men have sex more often than unmarried men. See? Not all bad.
- TrevorJ 17y agoEdit: I replied to the wrong comment somehow - my apologies, I meant to reply to the person who was talking about marriage=prison.
- Tichy 17y agoHow so? How could there be - marriage can be created by two people to their liking? OK, that is a presupposition, that the rules are not fixed. Is it wrong? If it fails, there is even the possibility of divorce.