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Your advice to women at conferences is really to "be rude"?

• beat 10y ago
  And then when she's rude, she's a cold, nasty bitch, and fully deserving of the stream of insults and epithets she gets for it. And anything short of being rude is perceived as interest and encouragement. Sigh.
• rarec 10y ago
  Sometimes, being blunt works. Especially in a field unfortunately dominated by socially unskilled men.
• Nadya 10y ago
  If her intuition is "this guy is flirting with me and I don't like it" my advice was to clearly state that. Being rude is one way to do that, yes. "Don't blame the other person for your failure to communicate." is my advice taken as a sound byte. Not just to women, but to everyone. Never blame someone else because you suck at communicating something. ps. I love how you took two words out of my entire reply and ran with those - ignoring the rest. For example, the first sentence telling them to be honest and communicate their disinterest (mentioning nothing about tone). Their weak signalling obviously isn't being communicated to or read properly by the other party. And yes, there are people who are bad with social cues or even "stronger signalling" and need actual words to be said to them.