Just a fact check for a moment. I would rather not speak to the authors point, but how she is mounting the defense of her point. First, the article she wrote it

Just a fact check for a moment. I would rather not speak to the authors point, but how she is mounting the defense of her point. First, the article she wrote it named “Just tell them you have a boyfriend.” She then seemingly quotes "a prominent thought leader in tech" (Stormy, a VP of Developer Relations at Cloud Foundry) as saying "Just make it clear you’re in a relationship." This is all in the first paragraph of the article. Now she is quoting Stormy from an article "Events are not cesspools of harassment" [1]. Stormy makes 6 points which have helped her to enjoy conferences as a woman in technology. The first point is "Make your intentions clear." She then goes on to explain that when she is talking to people at conferences and she feels the need, she will explain she is in a relationship. To quote: "So for the past decade and a half I’ve made it clear that I’m happily in a relationship." She also makes this following caveat to this advise: "If you don’t have a partner or kids, you’ll have to work on a strategy that works for you but it’s still possible to make your intentions clear." I think the most upsetting part about the parent article is that the author, Cecy Correa, seems to mis-represent what Stormy has written. Stormy never says "Just tell them you have a boyfriend." Nor is there any wording in her article which says "Just make it clear you’re in a relationship." She does say "Make your intentions clear." Now, maybe this still leads to the same conclusion, if you have to make your intentions clean, this is victim blaming. Maybe it does not. But if you are going to quote, please actually quote. [1] Stormy's original article - "Events are not cesspools of harassment" - https://medium.com/@storming/events-are-not-cesspools-of-harassment-ebef6bf3e2b6#.cf6tbniem https://medium.com/@storming/events-are-not-cesspools-of-har...