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I'm married so I may be ignorant to this, but how often is the hopeless romantic pursuing his love interest perceived as harassment? Thinking back, maybe asking
by brayhite 10y ago
I'm married so I may be ignorant to this, but how often is the hopeless romantic pursuing his love interest perceived as harassment? Thinking back, maybe asking my now-wife multiple times to go out on a date with me and formally be in a relationship despite going away to live with her parents would be seen as harassment. Neither her nor I see it that way though.
I guess my point is I think making the assumption that guys realize they're harassing and not being a try-hard may be where the err is. But I haven't seen that kinda thing in person myself, so I may be way off.
- untog 10y agoThe key part here is professional context. If you've met that person because you are both attending a tech conference it's very different than someone you've met in a purely social context.
- brayhite 10y agoMy only reply to that would be that I imagine a significant amount of couples met originally at work in what was likely supposed to be a professional environment.
- untog 10y agoI'm sure you're right, and I'm not saying it should never happen, but that it's a different environment that you should be aware of. Tech conferences are a little different than the average workplace, too - it's not as if you have the time to get to know a person, or usually live anywhere near each other to be able to form a relationship.
- dkuntz2 10y ago"hopeless romantic pursuing his love interest" can be harassment, perception or no. Just because the person in question is a "hopeless romanic" doesn't mean that they can't possibly be harassing someone. They're not the person who gets to decide that.
- brayhite 10y agoEither you stopped reading or are choosing to ignore what I wrote at the bottom clarifying my point.