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I don't think your comment sounds awful, but in my opinion you are giving too much importance to age and looks. I am 28 myself and when dating I am not trying

by vitobcn 17y ago

I don't think your comment sounds awful, but in my opinion you are giving too much importance to age and looks. I am 28 myself and when dating I am not trying to evaluate whether she already passed her prime time or if she still has a couple of good years cause she is Asian. Unless you are a teenager or in the early twenties, we are all going downhill. Shouldn't we try to find a partner who we like and share interests with, regardless of age (obviously, there are some boundaries). It seems you don't want a girl to 'settle' with you, but there's a ton of reasons to do so independently of her age. Maybe she wants you only for your money, or your looks...

kpanghmc 17y ago
I think the OP's main point was that when you date a woman in her 30s, there's a lot of pressure to get married and have babies ASAP. Because while it's certainly possible for a woman to become pregnant in their 30s, the chances pretty much go into a freefall during that decade. So even though as a man, you stand a higher chance with women in that age range, you'll always have this lingering doubt of whether she's with you because she wants you or if she's with you because she's running out of time. You're right though that there are plenty of other reasons a woman could be interested in you, but I think you might be underestimating just how loud that biological clock is ticking in a woman's brain when she hits 30.
indiejade 17y ago
Perspective changes as you get older. Besides, women live longer than men, and reach their prime later. There are a lot of reasons it makes sense for a female to date a male who is slightly younger than him. So. . . I daresay that the comment does sound pretty awful. Awful is probably the wrong word. Delusional, megalomaniac, may be better words. Anybody who doesn't have a bell curve around the ages of people they're willing to date (yes, with his/her own age in the middle) is probably missing a few logic gates. Given the gendercide and such, it's pretty certain that the world will never have shortage of creepy old men.
- philk 17y ago
  So. . . I daresay that the comment does sound pretty awful. Awful is probably the wrong word. Delusional, megalomaniac, may be better words. Anybody who doesn't have a bell curve around the ages of people they're willing to date (yes, with his/her own age in the middle) is probably missing a few logic gates. I think that's a bit judgemental. It's okay for people to have preferences regarding who they date. If one of these preferences is for younger women, well, that's up to them. There are girls out there with preferences for richer men or taller men and we don't go around accusing them of "missing a few logic gates". As an example, suppose you're an older guy (~45 yo) looking to get married and have kids. Your preferences are obviously going to tend towards younger women because you'll have a better chance of conceiving and healthier kids. This doesn't imply that you're crazy, or creepy. It simply implies that you have particular life plans and have a preference for getting together with someone who is compatible with these.

by vitobcn 17y ago

kpanghmc 17y ago

I think the OP's main point was that when you date a woman in her 30s, there's a lot of pressure to get married and have babies ASAP. Because while it's certainly possible for a woman to become pregnant in their 30s, the chances pretty much go into a freefall during that decade. So even though as a man, you stand a higher chance with women in that age range, you'll always have this lingering doubt of whether she's with you because she wants you or if she's with you because she's running out of time. You're right though that there are plenty of other reasons a woman could be interested in you, but I think you might be underestimating just how loud that biological clock is ticking in a woman's brain when she hits 30.

indiejade 17y ago

Perspective changes as you get older. Besides, women live longer than men, and reach their prime later. There are a lot of reasons it makes sense for a female to date a male who is slightly younger than him. So. . . I daresay that the comment does sound pretty awful. Awful is probably the wrong word. Delusional, megalomaniac, may be better words. Anybody who doesn't have a bell curve around the ages of people they're willing to date (yes, with his/her own age in the middle) is probably missing a few logic gates. Given the gendercide and such, it's pretty certain that the world will never have shortage of creepy old men.

philk 17y ago
So. . . I daresay that the comment does sound pretty awful. Awful is probably the wrong word. Delusional, megalomaniac, may be better words. Anybody who doesn't have a bell curve around the ages of people they're willing to date (yes, with his/her own age in the middle) is probably missing a few logic gates. I think that's a bit judgemental. It's okay for people to have preferences regarding who they date. If one of these preferences is for younger women, well, that's up to them. There are girls out there with preferences for richer men or taller men and we don't go around accusing them of "missing a few logic gates". As an example, suppose you're an older guy (~45 yo) looking to get married and have kids. Your preferences are obviously going to tend towards younger women because you'll have a better chance of conceiving and healthier kids. This doesn't imply that you're crazy, or creepy. It simply implies that you have particular life plans and have a preference for getting together with someone who is compatible with these.