Mostly I think the "fixing" process is a matter of bringing an antidote to whatever energies it is that you're uncomfortable with, so for me it's making sure th

Mostly I think the "fixing" process is a matter of bringing an antidote to whatever energies it is that you're uncomfortable with, so for me it's making sure they have long stretches of time being gentle and playful and happy, and not interrupting them abruptly when they are blissful. So being present and patient, and not loud and pushy and "you have to" kind of thing. Be quiet and listen to them, help them to keep pets, read them books (when they are older, things like maybe Tom Sawyer) - and leave your work at work. And when they come to find you, look them in the eye and answer their questions, no matter how exhausting it might be. A big part of that for me was putting work aside and just learning to accept that my customers are going to come second for quite a while here (I've done many stretches of solo parenting). And all those times they aren't at school, weekends and holidays - invest the days. Wander into nature, go fossicking on a beach, take them camping, find creeks and waterfalls, build cubby houses, and.. keep quiet :) they will introduce more than enough excitement by themselves. Just my 2c