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Putting Love to the Stress Test
- nibs 10y agoThis is disturbing and beautiful. My current Fiance and I followed a very similar pattern. All of my prior relationships would start out with all the "good" things. Chemistry, curiosity, etc. etc. but all eventually failed due to fundamental compatibility. It was never "I can't believe you, I'm walking out on you, drama drama" It was more I want A with my life and you want B. Full stop. This one, we knew each other for a long time, so instead of doing all the fancy stuff, we just downloaded a spreadsheet with X questions to ask before getting married, blind answered and then merged them. The disturbing similarities between them gave us confidence. And then we built the passion, chemistry, curiosity on purpose. And it worked. Marriage used to be about utility. We no longer need it for survival, but it should definitely be practical.
- scrupulusalbion 10y ago>we just downloaded a spreadsheet with X questions If you don't mind me asking, from where did you get this spreadsheet?
- cheez 10y agoThis is how marriages are arranged between families.
- cyberjunkie 10y agoOf course, you also have to keep in consideration that people change, as do their priorities, environments, circumstances and dreams.
- jjaksic 10y agoYes, changing requirements, scope creep etc.
- avmich 10y ago> And we married 12 months later. Nobody's perfect, I' guess.