The problem still comes down to your "lessons should be painful" approach, and how disproportionate it is relative to the perceived error here. To take an anal

The problem still comes down to your "lessons should be painful" approach, and how disproportionate it is relative to the perceived error here. To take an analogy: if a child plays with matches, you teach the child not to do that, explain how fire is dangerous, etc. You don't light a fire and hold the child's face down on it to burn them and make the lesson "painful". Yet when it comes to deliberately making sensitive/intimate data about people public that basically is what you're advocating for: the potential emotional harm that can be done to the people involved is off the charts.