You seem to be talking about religious weddings. Religious weddings are exactly that: words, and intentions. What matters is the judge that declares you marrie

You seem to be talking about religious weddings. Religious weddings are exactly that: words, and intentions. What matters is the judge that declares you married and the contract you sign. If you started to make religious vows enforceable in courts, which they are not, you'd probably see a lot less people interested into it.