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I find it interesting that many of the comments seem to paint that marriage is about love/trust. This is a relatively modern interpretation of the institution.
by DamnYuppie 10y ago
I find it interesting that many of the comments seem to paint that marriage is about love/trust. This is a relatively modern interpretation of the institution. It has, since the dawn of time, been an institution meant to ensure stability and continual propagation of the species. It was usually a way to improve ones lot in life or ensure their well being. Also until very recently, last 150 years, it was common to have a marriage contract.
To me love has very little to do with marriage, those who seem to think that it does generally find themselves in divorce court. One should focus on having a shared vision of what they want their life to be and be willing to make room for their partners eccentricities. Emotions come and go and are not a great foundation for a relationship. Trust, compromise, hardwork, and support should be the bedrock.
- dionidium 10y agoThis is a relatively modern interpretation of the institution Well, sure, and in response to massive societal changes. More people than ever aren't even having children. What need do they have for an institution that assists in that endeavor? So what is the trust, compromise, and hard work supposed to be in support of?
- armitron 10y agoGoing through life together, trying to achieve shared goals. Why does everything have to be about children?
- dionidium 10y agoIt doesn't. That's what the person I was responding to said marriage was for.
- DamnYuppie 10y agoI do not recall stating it was only about children currently. My stance was there is an over emphasis that marriage is about love or that it should be large component of it. I don't agree with that. Trust, comprise, and hard work are to be in support of each other in attaining their shared vision of their life, whatever that is.
- dionidium 10y agoWell, sure :) I don't think anybody who has ever been in a long-lasting relationship would disagree with you.
- gnaritas 10y ago> This is a relatively modern interpretation of the institution. It has, since the dawn of time, been an institution meant to ensure stability and continual propagation of the species. Historically it's been about property rights, not about breeding.
- emodendroket 10y agoI mean, sure, to some extent, that's true, but you can find exhortations to love your spouse and odes to marital love that are thousands of years old.
- erispoe 10y ago> ensure stability and continual propagation of the species I'm not sure roman legislators had a good concept of human species to begin with. Reproduction commonly happened both inside and outside wedlock. Marriage was first and foremost about property.